For those of us on the path of spiritual awakening and embodiment, an important conversation needs to be had around the lens of consciousness we are perceiving reality through.
This is my entry point into this conversation:
The more devoted I am to resolving my own traumas, triggers, and insecurities—the less susceptible I am to feeling victimized or offended by the world and people around me.
I want to invite you to notice the place where you tacitly give another person’s voice more power than your own internal authority when it comes to determining *how you feel* or *what you believe* about yourself.
And I want to invite you to ask yourself why you do that? Where does that pattern or inclination to give a person’s perspective power over you come from?
How has giving a person (or a group of people) that type of power served you in the past?
I promise you there is gold in here for you if you ask yourself these questions, and are willing to feel the potential discomfort associated with exploring them honestly. I know it was a treasure trove of clarity, freedom, and reclamation of power for *me*.
We aren’t helpless.
(Even though the traumas or woundings we carry can tip us into that lens of reality).
We have the capacity to cultivate discernment about what we let in and what we do not let into our field of consciousness—but when we don’t commit ourselves to doing the work of resolving our own traumas, or allow our shame for their existence to be stronger than our devotion to transmuting them—we can’t actually cultivate our inner boundary system because we’re not valuing ourselves.
We need to value ourselves to have boundaries.
As long as we need the external to change in order to find a sense of peace within ourselves, we will never be free—and we will continue to perpetuate the paradigm of the trauma/drama triangle despite the fact there is a paradigm that exists outside of it rooted in wholeness and sovereignty from within.
This isn’t about shaming or negating the places we have been victimized in the past. Because it is real.
This is instead about looking at where we walk through this world wearing the lens of a victim which in-so-doing shapes our entire perception of reality.
Deep compassion for the places we have been a victim is integral for being able to take responsibility for changing our experience.
My personal practice and all of my teachings are in service to supporting the individual in creating a grounded embodiment of personal sovereignty so we can release distorted patterns of relating perpetuating distorted blueprints of relating rooted in victimhood that aren’t even a reflection of the divine nature of who we truly are.
We are so much greater than that.
AND, we get to have compassion for ourselves (and each other) along the way in the places we forget.
May we all remember who we truly are.