One of the greatest sources of pain I see existing in culture is the wounding of distrust and disconnection between men and women that can often occur through sex, desire, and attraction.
We haven't learned how to relate with each other as brothers and sisters--we've learned to sxxualize, objectify, and project onto each other both our biggest desires and fantasies, AND our greatest fears and traumas.
We get to be super compassionate with ourselves in this process of upgrading how we relate to our arousal and re-establishing the sex-heart-crown connection.
AND, self-responsibility is needed if we want to have a new experience.
If we want to move forward as a culture, where we can build healthy relational ecosystems that support community, balanced leadership, and social structures that support family...
...we need to learn how to integrate our sexuality into our humanity.
We need to learn how to see any person we may experience romantic or erotic attraction to first and foremost as a brother or sister we're here sharing this world with intending to create a better place.
We need to look at where our previous wounds, triggers, or traumas are creating reactive or compulsive responses within us that seek to create intimacy from a place of agenda and projection over authenticity and connection.
In my teachings, I often say that "hookup culture is the antithesis of community". It's why I'm so passionate about drawing a deeper awareness to the intersection of sxxuality and leadership.
And why--just like integration of psychedelic experiences is SO deeply important. So is integration of our sxxual experiences.
If we keep relating with sxxuality as a peak experience we are seeking that exists outside of our every day waking reality, we'll keep turning people into projections and fantasies that we don't know how to integrate as real life humany human beings who struggle and long and fall and f*ck up and fear and love.
That's why I created HOLY DESIRE, a 7-week online program for leaders and lovers skillfully navigating sxxuality and desire in intimate relationship and group dynamics.
It’s for those playing a bigger game in leadership, purpose, entrepreneurship, community stewardship, and/or guiding others in their own awakening and consciousness expansion in private client or group work.
And it's for those simply desiring deeper freedom, pleasure, and self-awareness in their own life and relationships so you don't feel like you have to compromise who you are to have what you *truly* want.
We're all leaders–it's just a matter of what form the leadership takes.
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For those interested in deepening in this self-awareness and leadership work, HOLY DESIRE, my 7-week online program for leaders and lovers skillfully navigating truth, sexuality, and desire in intimate relationship and group dynamics is an excellent place to begin.
For those of you deep in your leadership and service game, my 6-month Erotic Integration Mastermind for those serving as leaders, facilitators, teachers, and entrepreneurs begins in July.
It's ideal for those stepping up to play a bigger game, been seen more widely, and have more impact in their work and thought leadership, and want to do that deeper integration work around their erotic energy and sexuality so they can show up more trusting in their power, their discernment, and their authentic voice in their leadership.