If the way a person is treating you or engaging with you does not feel good, it is essential that you first trust, and then explore that feeling within you.
Many of us are learning how to come into an embodied relationship with our boundaries, which are the foundation for our personal sovereignty.
This learning is essential, because many of us were raised in a family system or community that in some way or the other told us that we need to sacrifice our personal truths, emotions, or desires (I'll call them "TEDs") in order to secure the experience of love.
It is important to realize that in most circumstances, these reactions from family and community were not rooted in an intentional desire to cause harm, but more the understandable result of a culture indoctrinated into a fear, victim, and scarcity-based perception of reality.
So, with all of this in awareness, it is essential that you begin by trusting and validating yourself anytime you feel that someone is not treating you in a way that feels good or honoring of your heart.
This does not mean that you take this validation and use it as ammo to point the wild finger of persecution or villainization towards this person...
...but instead use the trusting of your emotions as an anchor point for discerning what type of boundary you need with this person to keep your heart open and connected to the world around you.
When we trust how we feel, we can intuitively know what boundary we need with any person in our lives in order to feel safe, clear, and grounded.
When we trust how we feel, our boundaries do not feel like intangible things existing outside of us that we need to pelt with a base ball bat at someone in order to convey our point.
When we trust how we feel, our boundaries are simply a grounded feeling of clarity within our bodies that we transmit through our posture, our energy, our movement, and yes, our words.
When we do the essential work of reclaiming our right to our own emotional experience, we no longer need to prove, to force, or manipulate in order to be seen, felt, or heard...we simply ARE.
We are embodied in our essential nature, because we embrace and love our human experience. And that EMBODIMENT is more powerful than any pithy or profound phrase of verbal conviction we could conjure.
Words are nothing if they aren't backed by embodiment.
I tell you, I invite you, with every fiber of my being...
There is nothing left to prove, when we are willing to walk the courageous path of settling into our heart, and remembering who we are.
With Love,
Arielle Brown
www.ariellebrown.com