If we resist something that exists within us (i.e. a desire, truth, emotion, feeling, etc), we cannot be in relationship with it, and if we cannot be in relationship with it, we cannot influence it or change it.
While it may seem counter intuitive, having love and approval for that which has plagued us with shame or self-judgement, is an unavoidable step in coming into energetic alignment with that which we authenticly desire.
Resistance creates a state of contraction in the body. Whatever we contract around stays in our body and energetic field, which also invariably causes significantly more pain and suffering, because we are clamping down on it.
It is through the felt and embodied experience of love and approval (as opposed to simply conjuring the idea of it in the mind) that move from a state of constriction and contraction to openness and expansiveness, which is where new realities and possibilities can enter the body.
This is how we release a truly undesirable experience from our energetic field, so that we are no longer an energetic match for it, we must allow it to move through us, which can only happen if we allow it to be there.
To allow it to be there, we must shift into a state of embodied trust that its presence up until this point has be in service to us in some way. That it being in our life has somehow supported a feeling of safety or security, or affirmed an identity that up until this point we weren't ready to let go of.
To do this, we must acknowledge that we have chosen up until this point to hold on to our suffering and pain. We must acknowledge that there has been something comforting about perpetuating our own suffering.
After all, who are we when we aren't the story of our struggle? How do our identity, relationships, and experience of reality change if we allow ourself to be free from a lineage of shame for who we are and what we desire?
We are being called into a golden awakening that can only occur through a willingness to surrender into a deeply psycho-emotio-somatic compassion for our gorgeously imperfect humanity.
We are being asked to release ourselves from the self-flagellating purgatory of shaming ourselves for the truth and desire that lives within our own hearts.
We are being asked now to reconnect on a deep level with what truly defines our value. We are being asked to remembering our worthiness NOW of feeling safe, loved, and enough.
And ironically, it is only from this location of having deep approval for the truth of what exists right NOW, that we may open ourselves to receiving the infinite bounty of the cosmos.
Welcome to the divine irony of quantum embodiment.